Taming the Tongue #1

Faith Church May 23, 1992

- the last few weeks we've been studying biblical
- I trust that these lessons have had an impact on the way
   you and your family communicate

- we decided that while we were on this subject, we would
   move up lesson 11 from the Christian Life and Growth
   lessons and talk about "taming the tongue"
- there's still a lot of important Scripture on this subject
    and we want to be sure we've covered it thoroughly

- to give you an idea of the schedule:
   - Today, we'll be looking at some "Basic Insights" and
      major passages on this subject.  We'll try to get down
      through Roman II in your handout.

   - Next week, we'll try to finish this subject.  We went
     over some of the material a few weeks back, but there
     are some other points in the notes that we definitely
     need to consider.

   - Lord willing, two weeks from today we'll talk about a
      subject that should naturally "flow out of" a
      discussion of communication--and that is the subject of
        - We want to talk about how we can use our tongues to
          tell others about our Lord, and what God's Word
          says about that important subject.

- let's begin with:

I. Basic Insights

    A. Can any person tame or control his tongue by his own
       strength?  - James 3:8

       No - "the tongue can no man tame"

    B. Note five descriptions of the destructive nature of an
        unconsecrated tongue (James 3:6).

        1) fire  (INPUT - point - can do serious damage, can
             easily get out of control)

        2) world of iniquity - (NASB - the very world of
            iniquity) - point - may appear small-but has
            potential for great evil)

        3) defiles the whole body - (INPUT - in what sense?
            - if I sin with my south, it affects ability to
              please Lord with other areas - cf. the husband
              who says something sinful to wife then tries to
              "make it up" by hugging, etc.  Point - forget
               about using your arms that way!


        4) sets on fire the course of nature - (NASB - sets
            on fire the course of our life) - again the
            emphasis here is on the unbelievable potential
            the tongue has to affect all areas of our lives.

            INPUT - how is this true?  cf. words like "I hate
             you", "I want a divorce,"  etc.

        5) set on the fire of hell (NASB - set on fire by

             - James is using the strongest terminology
               possible to describe both the potential impact
               and the potential wickedness of our tongues.

    C. Why is it humanly impossible to control the tongue?
        (Matt. 12:34) INPUT?

        - my tongue is naturally going to reflect my heart.
          If my heart is not being supernaturally changed
          through regeneration and progressive
          sanctification, it will naturally reflect what's on
          the inside.

    D. Through whose power can we obey Scriptural truth?
        (Phil. 4:13)

        - through Christ who strengthens me

        - INPUT - in reference to what we've been studying
           the last few weeks and what we've just talked
           about, what question(s) should we be asking?

             - have I been asking God to enable/empower me as
                I seek to obey His Word on communication that
                we've studied thus far?

- on page two, there's a long list of verses that deal with
   this subject.

- INPUT - what should our attitude be toward a list like

    cf. Bethany (unsaved family member unable to come to
         graduation - But Dad, we are going to be saying some
         Bible verses.  I though it would be good for him to
         hear those verses.  Maybe he would be saved.)

- some of these verses contain concepts we've already
  studied.  We'll move over them quickly.  Others contain
  some ideas that we'll stop and discuss.

Wrong uses:

    1. Eph. 4:25 - lying

    2. Eph. 4:29 - cutting

    3. Eph. 4:31 - Speaking with bitterness, wrath, anger,

    4. Eph. 5:4 - filthiness, foolish talking, jesting (NASB -
         coarse jesting)

         INPUT - what are some ways this one could be

    5. Col. 3:8 - anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy

    6. James 3:10 - cursings

    7. Prov. 10:18 - lying, slander

    8. Prov. 11:13 - talebearer, reveals secrets

    9. Prov. 15:1 - grievous words

   10. Prov. 17:9 - repeating matters

   11. Prov. 19:5 - false witness

   12. Eccle. 5:3 - lots of talking


   13. Prov. 26:18, 19 - cutting words--then saying it was
         "in sport"

   14. Matt. 12:34-37 - idle words

   15. Gal. 5:15, 16 - "biting and devouring one another"

Right Uses:

  (INPUT - why would it be important to study both the wrong
      uses and the right uses?)  (hit put off/on)

    1. Acts 1:8 - witnessing

    2. Prov. 10:21 - righteous talk

    3. Prov. 15:1 - answering softly

    4. Prov. 15:7 - speaking wisely, dispersing knowledge

    5. Prov. 15:8 - praying

    6. Prov. 15:23 - speaking at the right time

    7. Prov. 17:28 - holding peace at the appropriate times

    8. Prov. 20:5 - asking good questions, speaking in a way
        that helps a person focus on the inner person

    9. Ps. 33:1 - rejoicing

   10. Isa. 50:4 - encouraging others, speaking at right times
   11. Rom. 13:8 - speaking lovingly

   12. Psalm 33:2, 3 - singing (a new song)

   13. John 16:24 - petition

   14. Eph. 4:15 - truthfully, lovingly

   15. Eph. 4:29 - edifying

II. Projects

    A. Write "R" for right usage and "W" for wrong usage of
        the tongue

       1. silence:  always - W    sometimes - R

            - INPUT - verses to support your answer?
                    - what should not be the deciding
                    - what should be the deciding factors?

        2. profanity - W

        3. sarcasm - almost always - W

        4. talking to a person who is not part of the
             solution (gossip) - W

        5. boasting - W

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