Taming the Tongue #2

Faith Church May 30, 1992 Romans 3:

- INPUT - what does the Bible say about man's ability to
     control the tongue on his own and what should that
     remind us of?

- in your notes, Roman III contains some guidelines for
    taming our tongues.
- we've studied these principles in other forms over the past
   several weeks, so we're not going to look at them in

- however, they are good to have because they summarize much
   of what we've been saying in a concise way.

- in order to familiarize us with the way they're stated.
  let's do this:
    - let's go down through them and ask this question of
      each principle:

    - What will happen if we don't follow this principle?

      - go through each one - take 15-20 seconds on each.
          Sample answers for #1 might include:
            - will be rude
            - won't hear what other person is saying
            - will be acting like a fool
            - will be raising children who won't listen

IV. Practical Projects To Tame The Tongue

    A. Memorize these ten "Tongue Tamers"

       - Go through passages - find the tongue tamer in each
       - there is some overlap in the concepts.

        1. Prov. 29:20

           Don't speak quickly.

        2. Prov. 18:13

          Don't answer until you have the facts.

        3. Prov. 15:4

          Don't use words that crush.

        4. Prov. 21:23

            Don't speak when you should be "holding your

        5. Prov. 17:28

            Shut lips at appropriate times.

        6. Prov. 18:8

            Don't speak lies, words that wound.

        7. Matt. 12:36, 37

            Don't speak idle words.

        8. I Pet. 3:10

            Don't speak half-truths (guile).

        9. Col. 4:6

            Speak words that are gracious.

       10. Psalm 19:14

            Speak words that are acceptable to God.

    B. Learn to keep promises.

        Ps. 15:1-4

        INPUT - what are some situations where a believer
           might be tempted not to keep his/her word?

    C. Learn to keep vows to God

        Eccle. 5:4-7

        INPUT - what are some promises a person might make to
          the Lord and what might stand in the way of keeping
          those promises?

    D. Learn to identify:

        1. Gossip (reporting or rumoring problems that do not
             concern you/or the person you are telling)

           INPUT - kinds of gossip that believers sometimes
             get caught up in?

        2. Slander (truth designed to hurt)

            INPUT - difference between #1 and #2

            INPUT - why might a person slander someone else?

        3. Bad reports (misinformation)

           INPUT - why might a person get caught up in this
                   sinful use of the tongue?

INPUT - what are some steps we can take to identify whether
        we are guilty of this kind of speech?

        1) Think about conversations with those closest to
           you.  These are probably the persons you are most
           likely to "fall into" this kind of speech with."

        2) Ask those closest to you if you ever speak in this
           way.  Be ready to repent and change.

    E. Join the "Good Reporters" club.

        1. the world reports bad news.

            - cf. the "National Inquirer" type papers

        2. Remember that Satan is the Accuser of the
            brethren.  Let us not be like him.

    F. Defusing statements

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