Psalms 127 pt III

Dr. Steve Viars October 23, 1993 Psalms 127:

III. The Challenge Of Spiritual Parenting

    verse 4 - as arrows are in the hand of a mighty man

    - INPUT - what is David picturing here?

       (an arrow must be prepared, an arrow can be directed,
        an arrow can either serve very useful purposes or
        very destructive ones)

INPUT - let's do another one of our "white board comparisons"

    (divide into groups--could also give the next question
      about our view of man as an "extra credit)

    - what would be some characteristics of a parent who
      understood the truth of this verse and characteristics
      of a parent who didn't.

        - issue of spending time
        - importance of solving problems biblically, teaching
            children that method
        - importance of (Eph. 6:4) "bringing them up" as
            opposed to letting them bring themselves up.

INPUT - How does our view of man affect our interpretation of
        this verse?

         - go after the issue of - we're not just talking
           about the issue of a "arrow" being a "neutral
             - we're talking about a child with a sinful
                nature who is bent on destroying self and
                others.  "Foolishness is bound ..."
- cf. illus. of blind children fighting over what color play-
       dough they have.

- one last thing we need to say about verse 4. David has
    stated this concept very positively. He wants us to think
    about the influence a godly man's family can have.
-  children who are brought up in the nurture and admonition
    of the Lord can make a great difference for Christ.
- the other side of that is - "As arrows are in the hand of a
    fool, so are children of one's youth."

    - perhaps you've seen a parent at a Christmas party give
      alcohol to a child to try to make them drunk and
      entertain people at the party.
    - and of course we could come up with hundreds of ways to
       illustrate this idea.

- the point is - there's a real challenge to spiritual
    parenting--our children are like arrows in the hand of a
    mighty man.

IV. Joy And Protection Of Spiritual Parenting - verse 5

    - happy is the man that has his quiver full of them.

    A. Minimum family size?

- you probably know that this verse has been used to talk
       about a "Christian minimum family size."
    - let's take a minute and think that one through.

    - some are saying, Christians ought to raise huge
       families so we can reclaim our society for Christ.

       - INPUT - what do you think about that kind of
          reasoning?  (it's not the church's job to reclaim


- the bottom line is - there isn't a verse (here or
   otherwise) that gives a magic formula for the appropriate
   family size that we can legalistically slap on everyone.

- that’s exactly what that would be -- legalism.

- having said that--we could definitely talk about sinful
    habits that could be true of a family that was too large,
    or a family that was too small.


    - INPUT - for example - what sinful reasons might a
        family have in deciding to have fewer children than
        God would desire?


    - INPUT - what might be some sinful reasons that
        motivated a couple to have children (or more


    - INPUT - what biblical principles might a family violate
        in being too large?

- so instead of using this verse to come up with a legalistic
   standard to impose on all, let's use it as an opportunity
   to think about how many children we have, and WHY we have
   that many children.
- once that's done, let's go back to the thrust of the verse:

B. Children are a source of great joy and happiness

    "they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the
      enemies at the gate."

    - the picture, of course, is the custom in Bible times of
       gathering at the gate of the city to discuss matters
       and settle disputes.

    - David wants us to think about a man who's raised a
       group of godly children, who have adopted his
       convictions and character as their own, and who can
       stand with him at the gate.

- there's at least two ideas that go with that picture:

1) the happiness that results from influence

    - many parents have had children that have "gone further"
       in their work for Christ than they did.
    - that can be a tremendous source of joy and
        encouragement to a mom and dad.

2) the happiness that results from protection

    - those "children at the gate" would also serve as
       protection for their parents.
    - there's safety and confidence in numbers.
    - all of us have things we'd be willing to "stand alone"
        for, but it's great to have other brothers and
        sisters who will stand with us, and it's especially
        gratifying and encouraging if some of those standing
        with us are our own children.

Dr. Steve Viars


Senior Pastor - Faith Church

Director - Faith Legacy Foundation


B.S.: Pre-Seminary & Bible, Baptist Bible College (Now Clarks Summit University)
M.Div.: Grace Theological Seminary
D.Min.: Biblical Counseling, Westminster Theological Seminary

Dr. Steve Viars has served at Faith Church in Lafayette, IN since 1987. Pastor Viars leads and equips Faith Church as Senior Pastor with a focus on preaching and teaching God’s Word and using his organizational skills in guiding the implementation of the Faith Church mission and vision. He oversees the staff, deacons, and all Faith Church ministries. Dr. Viars serves on the boards of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors, Biblical Counseling Coalition, Vision of Hope, and the Faith Community Development Corporation. Steve is the author, co-author, or contributor to six books and numerous booklets. He and his wife, Kris, were married in 1982 and have two married daughters, a son, and three grandchildren.

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