Proverbs 7 - Avoiding Sexual Sin pt VII

Dr. Steve Viars March 30, 2002 Proverbs 7:

- as we've said for several weeks now, the overall outline Warren Wiersbe uses for these chapters is:
I. Sexual Sin is Eventually Disappointing - Chapter 5
II. Sexual Sin is Gradually Destructive - Chapter 6
III. Sexual Sin is Ultimately Deadly - Chapter 7

- read Proverbs 7

III. Sexual Sin is Ultimately Deadly


A. God's Word will keep you from this death - vv. 1-5
B. A person who sins sexually tempts himself - vv. 6-9

- we spent most of our time last week working on this important emphasis.
- a couple of verses that go along with this theme are:

Proverbs 5:8 - Keep your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house,

Job 31:1 - I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?

Proverbs 3:26 - For the LORD will be your confidence, and will keep your foot from being caught.

Proverbs 4:27 - Do not turn to the right or to the left; turn your foot from evil.

- now, to complicate matters, it is not simply as issue of whether we will tempt ourselves.
- the other side of the issue is, there are also other who will be glad to join in to the "tempting us to sin" process.

C. A person who sins sexually will be tempted by others - vv. 10-21


- INPUT - Why is that?


- please notice the steps…

1. She comes out to meet him - v. 10
- she's waiting…

2. Her dress is part of the temptation - v. 10

- INPUT - Is there a place for discussions about modesty in this day and age? How do you have them without falling into the ditch of legalism?

3. She is loud and rebellious - v.11

- her actions flow out of her character…
- her feet will not stay at home

4. I will make you a wonderful meal - v. 14
- that’s the point of the peace offering--she would have meat leftover from that offering

5. I want you - v. 15
- notice the flattering speech…

- INPUT - What is being appealed to here? Why is this temptation so dangerous? What is the "antidote" to this temptation?
- [develop -- those who are developing intimacy with God are not going to be as easily tempted by false intimacy through illicit sexual relationships]

6. I am ready for you - v. 16-18
- notice the appeal to all the senses…feeling orientation on steroids

7. No one will know - v. 19-20
- her husband will be gone for some time
- INPUT - Why should statements like this be an obvious indicator that the contemplated action is sinful and wrong? Where does the doctrine of God's omnipresence fit into this discussion?
- cf. Psalm 139

8. The temptation is all wrapped up in words - v. 21

- develop the different ways this concept is emphasized in this verse
- many persuasions
- entices him
- flattering lips
- seduces him
- [if time, note the progression between verses 21 and 22 - with many words/suddenly]
- Jay Adams - "He hesitates, but he goes on listening to her; that is his mistake, since it is by many such words she causes him to yield."

D. A person who sins sexually tempts the Lord - vv. 22-27

- Wiersbe makes a good point when he says that humans are the only part of God's creation that can choose what kind of creature we want to be.
- we can choose to be like a sheep following our master….or we can choose to be like an ox going to the slaughter.

- [if time, tie in the idea of being burned from the previous chapter]

Wiersbe – Fire is a good thing if it’s confined and controlled. It can keep us warm, cook our food, drive turbines, and manufacture our electricity. Sex is a good gift from God but, like fire, if it gets out of control, it becomes destructive. What begins as a “warm” experience soon becomes a burning experience, like holding a torch in your lap or walking on burning coals.
“But sex is a normal desire, given to us by God,” some people argue. “Therefore, we have every right to use it, even if we’re not married. It’s like eating: If you’re hungry, God gave you food to eat; if you’re lonely, God gave you sex to enjoy.” Some of the people in the Corinthian church used this argument to defend their sinful ways: Foods for the stomach and the stomach for foods” (1 Cor. 6:13, NKJV). But Paul made it clear that the believer’s body belonged to God and that the presence of a desire wasn’t the same as the privilege to satisfy that desire (vv. 12-20).


- INPUT - Has anyone here ever been burned, or seen anyone burned? What is that like? What picture is being painted here?
- develop kid at hayride jumping over the fire and falling in.


- cf. Hebrews 13:4 - fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

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Avoiding Sexual Sin #7
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Introduction

I. Sexual Sin is Eventually Disappointing - Chapter 5
II. Sexual Sin is Gradually Destructive - Chapter 6
III. Sexual Sin is Ultimately Deadly - Chapter 7


III. Sexual Sin is Ultimately Deadly
A. God's Word will keep you from this death.
B. A person who sins sexually tempts himself.
C. A person who sins sexually will be tempted by ______________.
1. She comes _________ to meet him - v. 10
2. Her __________ is part of the temptation - v. 10
INPUT - Is there a place for discussions about modesty in this day and age? How do you have them without falling into the ditch of legalism?
3. She is ________ and _________________ - v.11
4. I will make you a wonderful ___________ - v. 14
5. I __________ you - v. 15
INPUT - What is being appealed to here? Why is this temptation so dangerous? What is the "antidote" to this temptation?
6. I am _____________ for you - v. 16-18
7. ______ _________ will know - v. 19-20
INPUT - Why should statements like this be an obvious indicator that the contemplated action is sinful and wrong? Where does the doctrine of God's omnipresence fit into this discussion?
8. The temptation is all wrapped up in ___________ - v. 21
Jay Adams - "He hesitates, but he goes on listening to her; that is his mistake, since it is by many such words she causes him to yield."
D. A person who sins sexually tempts the __________.

Wiersbe – Fire is a good thing if it’s confined and controlled. It can keep us warm, cook our food, drive turbines, and manufacture our electricity. Sex is a good gift from God but, like fire, if it gets out of control, it becomes destructive. What begins as a “warm” experience soon becomes a burning experience, like holding a torch in your lap or walking on burning coals.
“But sex is a normal desire, given to us by God,” some people argue. “Therefore, we have every right to use it, even if we’re not married. It’s like eating: If you’re hungry, God gave you food to eat; if you’re lonely, God gave you sex to enjoy.” Some of the people in the Corinthian church used this argument to defend their sinful ways: Foods for the stomach and the stomach for foods” (1 Cor. 6:13, NKJV). But Paul made it clear that the believer’s body belonged to God and that the presence of a desire wasn’t the same as the privilege to satisfy that desire (vv. 12-20).

Dr. Steve Viars

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Senior Pastor - Faith Church

Director - Faith Legacy Foundation

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B.S.: Pre-Seminary & Bible, Baptist Bible College (Now Clarks Summit University)
M.Div.: Grace Theological Seminary
D.Min.: Biblical Counseling, Westminster Theological Seminary

Dr. Steve Viars has served at Faith Church in Lafayette, IN since 1987. Pastor Viars leads and equips Faith Church as Senior Pastor with a focus on preaching and teaching God’s Word and using his organizational skills in guiding the implementation of the Faith Church mission and vision. He oversees the staff, deacons, and all Faith Church ministries. Dr. Viars serves on the boards of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors, Biblical Counseling Coalition, Vision of Hope, and the Faith Community Development Corporation. Steve is the author, co-author, or contributor to six books and numerous booklets. He and his wife, Kris, were married in 1982 and have two married daughters, a son, and five grandchildren.

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