FAITH WEST: "Say What? Effective Communication"
Proverbs 18:21a - Death and life are in the power of the tongue
James 3:3-5 - Now if we put the bits into the horses’ mouths so that they will obey us, we direct their entire body as well. Look at the ships also, though they are so great and are driven by strong winds, are still directed by a very small rudder wherever the inclination of the pilot desires. So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things. See how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire!
2 big picture truths regarding effective communication
I. We must set our hearts on ____________ because all of our communication originates in our heart
Matthew 12:34-37 - You brood of vipers, how can you, being evil, speak what is good? For the mouth speaks out of that which fills the heart. The good man brings out of his good treasure what is good; and the evil man brings out of his evil treasure what is evil. But I tell you that every careless word that people speak, they shall give an accounting for it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.
A. To effectively communicate, our __________ must be committed to love the Lord
Matthew 22:37-40 - And He said to him, “YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.” This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, “YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.” On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.
B. To effectively communicate, we must want to ____________ the Lord with our words
1 Corinthians 10:31 - Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
C. Having just celebrated Easter, we have every ____________________ to want to love and please the Lord
D. __________________________ that communication comes from our hearts, helps us avoid incorrect clichés
II. We must use __________-__________ communication in our families
A. Commit to speaking the __________
Ephesians 4:25 - Therefore, laying aside falsehood, SPEAK TRUTH EACH ONE of you WITH HIS NEIGHBOR, for we are members of one another.
1. When one speaks the truth the message is not hidden or distorted
2. When one speaks the truth they do not use hurtful exaggeration
3. When one speaks the truth they do so recognizing that they are family
B. Commit to words of ______________________
C. Commit to words of __________________
D. Commit to words of ________________
E. Commit to words that are ________ rather than harsh
Proverbs 15:1 - A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
F. Commit to being __________ at appropriate moments
Proverbs 10:19 - When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise.
Proverbs 18:2 - A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in revealing his own mind.
FAITH EAST: "Friendships beyond Facebook"
5 ways our friendships can be worshipful and marked by grace
1. Thinking humbly about yourself - (v3)
a. Paul ____________ humility even in his instruction
b. Notice the focus on _________________ for everyone
Romans 12:3 -
c. Notice the humility that comes from thinking about how even God allotted you the measure of faith that you have
2. Having the right view of your ________________ (vv4-5)
a. Romans 12:4-5 - For just as we have many members in one body and all the members do not have the same function, so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.
b. We are one body ____ ____________
1 Peter 2:9-10 - But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for God’s own possession, so that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who has called you out of darkness into His marvelous light; for you once were not a people, but now you are the people of God; you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.
c. Embrace what is __________________
d. Embrace what brings us ________________
3. Using your __________ to serve others – (vv6-8)
a. Romans 12:6-8 - Since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to exercise them accordingly: if prophecy, according to the proportion of his faith; if service, in his serving; or he who teaches, in his teaching; or he who exhorts, in his exhortation; he who gives, with liberality; he who leads, with diligence; he who shows mercy, with cheerfulness.
b. __________________ of gifts evidence God’s grace
c. Friends use their gifts to build up ______ ________ instead of selfishly hoarding their talents to serve themselves
4. Loving one another __________________ – (vv9-13)
a. Romans 12:9 - Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good.
b. It is more than being ________ (vv9-10)
c. It takes ____________ and ________ (vv10-11)
Romans 12:10-11 - Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord…
d. It is a ____________________ of how you serve the Lord (v11)
e. It Involves hope, tribulations and prayer
Romans 12:12 - …
f. It includes meeting people’s __________ and practicing _______________________
Romans 12:13 - …